Becoming a parent is a big change, and feeling overwhelmed is common. But sometimes low mood or anxiety goes beyond tiredness. Knowing the difference can help you ask for help sooner.
Baby blues
Many mothers feel tearful, anxious or moody in the first few days after delivery. This is often called the baby blues. It usually settles on its own within about two weeks, with rest and support.
Postpartum depression
Postpartum depression is longer lasting and more intense. It can start any time in the first year. Signs can include:
- Feeling sad, empty or hopeless most of the day
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
- Anxiety, panic or constant worry
- Trouble sleeping even when the baby sleeps
- Feeling guilty or like you are not a good parent
- Thoughts of harming yourself
It is common, it is not a weakness, and it is treatable. Partners can be affected too.
A private self-check
Our check uses the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS), a 10-question screening tool used by doctors worldwide. It was published by Cox, Holden and Sagovsky in 1987. It scores out of 30. A higher score suggests you may be struggling and is a good reason to talk to a doctor or psychologist. It is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. Your answers stay on your device and are not saved or sent anywhere.
If you need help now
If you have thoughts of harming yourself, please talk to someone today. In India you can call Tele-MANAS on 14416 or KIRAN on 1800-599-0019, or 112 in an emergency. Please check these numbers yourself before relying on them. Tell someone near you how you are feeling.
What can help
- Ask your gynaecologist or paediatrician to refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist.
- Tell your partner or a family member you trust.
- Ask someone to take a night feed so you can get a longer stretch of sleep.